how to make a man love you?

all we as people seem to think about is how to make someone love you and stay with you forever and never leave you alone again... how is it done?

it said is that you attract what you dress for... well that is a partial truth.. you do attract what a particular man is looking for or looking at... but.. you cannot judge a book by the cover.. this would mean that every man who does not go to church is not a good man.. and that is not true.. he may not be what a woman of God should attach herself to... in that I am in agreement.. the bible says be ye equally yoked.. but... that does not make him a bad partner.. I have been treated like I was the world by a man not living for God.. and I was very happy... and I dressed very provocatively in the past...

another shade to that... I dressed provocatively.. never paid for a drink... and I never took a man home... so.. in the same respect.. you are not always what you dress like...

if you ignore a man.. you get far more attention than you would if you are up his butt... I could go without ever talking to someone and they would be all over the place.. wherever they could possibly run into you.. so you really don't have to go where they go.. trust and believe that they will find you... you do not have to call them.. they will call you...

usually.. if you give the impression that you are done... they will come running... and.. we give up sex far too easily... a man can get sex anywhere... yes.. I know you have special skills.. I have them too... I have even been told I was the best... but what I say to you is this.. you are worth more than pleasuring a man.. even when it pleasures you... you are giving more of yourself than you realize and in the end.. it is you that pays for it.. he forgets all about it...

here is the thing though... while I had more game than most men... none of these things apply when you are walking in God's world.. these things only work in the street world... which is satan's domain...

in God's plan.. it is different... much different.. everything you knew that would work does not work over here... so there is no point in making a fool or yourself and trying to use the street rules on a man in God's kingdom.. they don't work... you have to just wait on God... and in HIS time.. God will turn the heart and the eyes of the man He has planned for you... and it will then last a lifetime... the street rules work in the street.. don't get me wrong.. but a street relationship rarely lasts a lifetime.. only a God ordained covenant will last forever...

let the street go... read the word of God.. about the women of God and learn how they submitted themselves first to God and then to their head.. that is where forever relationships come from...

please read the word for yourself.. a woman was created to be a helpmeet for a man.. I promise you.. it is in Genesis.. and since the fall she has been trying to be his head ever since.. and that is sin... there is NOTHING in the bible that made a woman a head... anywhere... learn your TRUE role.. the one GOD created you for.. and while it is not easy.. that is where you will find true peace and find a love of a lifetime...

I struggle with the call of women preachers... or the presentation of them is a better way to say it maybe...

I can find nowhere in the bible that there was some transforming change and women became a head somewhere.. yet other women see it all through the bible... I guess I would question which one of us is wrong.. me or them?

MY BIBLE.. the one written by the Creator.. tells me that a woman was created to be a helpmeet of a man... that was her original purpose.. yet somehow.. since feminism has developed... we no longer need a man.. all we need is one another... and as God draws me away from close relationships with other women as they tend to lead to gossip and other issues.. women seem to feel they are necessary... I cannot determine if I am being mislead.. or if these other women are...

I know women in positions of power.. both in the workforce and in the church... and some women carry a position yet remain in a state of submission... yet others.. use that position to seemingly tell women how they don't need men... yet this is not in the bible that I can find... and in my personal life.. God is calling me to a great level of submission to a man.. where I only have a voice when asked for it... so am I the only one being led to this? or am I the one that is in obedience to God?

I am learning that women are of great value to one another.. to minister to one another.. and to teach children.. men, as they have a different role.. are valuable teachers but they are different than a woman.. and I think the role of a woman is important in the life of a child as a teacher.. I think that a man cannot understand a woman's struggle as another woman does...

I also see that a woman can talk to a man about things they won't talk with to another man... but this is usually done in a one on one setting.. or in your own home with your own man...

the view of the woman is so different than that of a man.. how could she imagine to teach on his level of thinking? I have a son.. and I could not teach him to be a man... and he NEEDED a man to do this..

I think this whole feminist movement has set us back farther than some women will ever know because we now have to re-learn everything we are taught from childhood in order to be in agreement with God's will... and it is more difficult than I would have imagined...

I am thankful God is my Father and my Teacher and I am able to learn directly from His Spirit and His Word... thank you Lord for teaching me your ways... as they are not my ways...

vision..

I find that sometimes.. when we have been given a vision.. our focus will come off of God and onto the vision... I don't think we even realize that we do it...

I believe God is teaching us lessons in our NOW that will be used in our NOT YET.. but when we become so focused on bringing the not yet to pass then it stops being God in control and becomes me... and so I am realizing that I need to be right here.. in today... learning what I will need when I get to that not yet... so that I am completely prepared... and then it is God bringing HIS WILL to pass.. not me bringing my will to pass...

Father.. keep me in today... enjoying this day that you have given.. this season of peace.. where I have no stress and troubles... so that when the season of turmoil comes.. I can keep the peace you have given me in my now... I love you.. I adore you.. I bow down before you...

Rebellion...

Romans 13:1 Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. 2 So anyone who rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished. 3 For the authorities do not strike fear in people who are doing right, but in those who are doing wrong. Would you like to live without fear of the authorities? Do what is right, and they will honor you. 4 The authorities are God’s servants, sent for your good. But if you are doing wrong, of course you should be afraid, for they have the power to punish you. They are God’s servants, sent for the very purpose of punishing those who do what is wrong. 5 So you must submit to them, not only to avoid punishment, but also to keep a clear conscience.
6 Pay your taxes, too, for these same reasons. For government workers need to be paid. They are serving God in what they do. 7 Give to everyone what you owe them: Pay your taxes and government fees to those who collect them, and give respect and honor to those who are in authority.

you know the feeling you get when you are speeding and a police is on the side of the road... it's funny how we do something then we try so hard to not get caught at whatever it is... I am reading this book on spiritual authority... and learning alot about myself... for one thing.. I don't think I ever felt that every person put in a position of authority was put there by God... many times I would feel they are not good.. they are evil.. so God didn't do that... yet the bible says He did... I would think that to rebel against someone who is wrong is all right.. because I am right.. they are wrong... that I don't have to submit to someone doing the wrong thing... yet the bible says that if they are in a position of authority we are to submit... this book teaches that not submitting to authority is called rebellion.. it is one of the strongest problems the Israelites had.. they felt they were right to tell someone when they felt they were wrong... yet this is not what the bible tells us... but don't we do this all the time?

I think if I get myself right.. and don't worry about someone elses wrongs.. that would be the best thing to do...

yesterday.. this woman was working at church for breakfast... now we pay for breakfast... so when I get hot water.. even though I have my own tea bag... I pay for it... but apparently this woman felt that I didn't pay for it... and yesterday she asks me where is my ticket... and I got very offended... (really probably only because I don't appreciate her so much...) and I say to her.. if you don't believe I paid for this water.. then go ask miss such and such collecting money... and I proceeded to get my water and go sit down.. but I was HOT... and I wanted to kick her in the head... and I was wrong... she was wrong.. but so was I.. .and as she is the one that was put over that table... I should have went to the cashier and got a ticket and kept my attitude to myself... instead I sat and thought in my mind of all the sins that this woman does on a weekly basis... this is the spirit of rebellion.... and I hope to lay mine to death... but it is a great struggle...

Genesis 16

1 Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had not been able to bear children for him. But she had an Egyptian servant named Hagar. 2 So Sarai said to Abram, “The Lord has prevented me from having children. Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her.” And Abram agreed with Sarai’s proposal. 3 So Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian servant and gave her to Abram as a wife. (This happened ten years after Abram had settled in the land of Canaan.)

point #1.. sarah was her own worst enemy.. what woman do you know that would tell her husband to sleep with another woman.. no matter who it was... I realize WHY she did it.. in their culture.. to be childless was to be ashamed.. so they would use surrogates to have children on their behalf... I am thinking I would have to be shamed... I would not send my husband off to sleep with another female... AND.. this is AFTER God had promised them the child.. which means that basically... sarah was taking things into her own hands.. okay.. I am VERY guilty of that!! and just like her.. it creates a mess every time...

4 So Abram had sexual relations with Hagar, and she became pregnant. But when Hagar knew she was pregnant, she began to treat her mistress, Sarai, with contempt. 5 Then Sarai said to Abram, “This is all your fault! I put my servant into your arms, but now that she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. The Lord will show who’s wrong—you or me!”

so hagar gets full of herself... (what woman sleeping with YOUR man doesn't?) somehow this caused her to get to thinking that she was the wife and sarah didn't count any more... ummmm... all women that sleep with someone else's man get this syndrome... they decide that somehow they have become the true love and the man no longer loves the wife... which usually is NOT the case.. but after the wife finds out he's been sleeping around.. then she walks away and he ends up with the other woman...

6 Abram replied, “Look, she is your servant, so deal with her as you see fit.” Then Sarai treated Hagar so harshly that she finally ran away.
typical man... although we have to say that this one really was not his fault... but he still responded like a typical man...
7 The angel of the Lord found Hagar beside a spring of water in the wilderness, along the road to Shur. 8 The angel said to her, “Hagar, Sarai’s servant, where have you come from, and where are you going?” “I’m running away from my mistress, Sarai,” she replied.

(she now remembers she is the slave and sarah is her mistress/owner... hindsight is 20/20..)

9 The angel of the Lord said to her, “Return to your mistress, and submit to her authority.” 10 Then he added, “I will give you more descendants than you can count.”
submit to her authority... definitely one of my weak points... definitely...
11 And the angel also said, “You are now pregnant and will give birth to a son. You are to name him Ishmael (which means ‘God hears’), for the Lord has heard your cry of distress. 12 This son of yours will be a wild man, as untamed as a wild donkey! He will raise his fist against everyone, and everyone will be against him. Yes, he will live in open hostility against all his relatives.”

this really doesn't sound like much of a blessing on the boy... not to me... yet it was... because ishmael was nearly as large a nation as issac... besides... I tend to be a little hardheaded and wild too.. although I would prefer to not be called a wild donkey by God...

13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” She also said, “Have I truly seen the One who sees me?” 14 So that well was named Beer-lahai-roi (which means “well of the Living One who sees me”). It can still be found between Kadesh and Bered. 15 So Hagar gave Abram a son, and Abram named him Ishmael. 16 Abram was eighty-six years old when Ishmael was born.

God enters into relationship with hagar.. although she is not the chosen nation... God chooses who He chooses.. no matter what people think...
I have to say... I feel sorry for abraham over ishmael because he had to send his son away because of his wife.. who was the whole reason he even had the extra son and woman... I feel sorry for ishmael because he is sent to live away from his father through no cause of his own... I would say that hagar made out in the end... she no longer was a slave.. she ended up to be the mother of a very prosperous leader...

now what any of that has to do with us? I guess I will say that we are to submit to the authority placed over us and God will make us mother to a prosperous leader in the end? LOL! not necessarily... but we are to submit and God will work it all out as it should be... truly... God did not tell abraham to sleep with hagar and create the extra son... abraham apparently didn't ask... otherwise he would have been told that God promised him a son with sarah... yet God takes the mess that we have created and He has allowed and He turns it all for the good of many...

Job 23: 10-17

10 “But he knows where I am going. And when he tests me, I will come out as pure as gold.
11 For I have stayed on God’s paths; I have followed his ways and not turned aside.
12 I have not departed from his commands, but have treasured his words more than daily food.
13 But once he has made his decision, who can change his mind? Whatever he wants to do, he does.
14 So he will do to me whatever he has planned. He controls my destiny.
15 No wonder I am so terrified in his presence. When I think of it, terror grips me.
16 God has made me sick at heart; the Almighty has terrified me.
17 Darkness is all around me; thick, impenetrable darkness is everywhere.

God knows where I am going... well thank God for that.. as many days I am unsure!! when He tests me I shall come out as gold.. that of course is my desire.. but somedays I am unsure.... somedays I feel like maybe I have fallen too far off the path... too far out of the way I was supposed to go... and so maybe I will never be all that His plan was for me... Job is able to say that he has stayed on Gods paths and has not departed from God's commands... I am unable to say that... I have departed from them many times over...

but... then it says... once He has made His decision.. who can change His mind... so.. maybe... as He knew me from the end of my life to the beginning... maybe as He already knew I was going to screw up this badly... maybe.. He won't change His mind about the wonderful promises He has given me... this scripture says that He controls my destiny... (these are my issues with free will...) so while I fall... while I screw up... He already knew it... and He had it under control from the beginning... He controls my ending... my middle.. and my beginning... so maybe that is some people's problems... God controlled your destiny and yet you were sick.. or you were abused.. or you were hurt... and none of this by your own hand... maybe by the hand of God... so... why would He do such a thing? why would He allow it.. as He is the one in control... all things work together for our good... if I had not been raised prejudiced... I would not now be so fervently against it... if I had not been abused by a man who should have protected me... maybe I would never have understand why women don't leave.. or why they choose the same man over and over in a different body... these tragedies have made me who I am and they have molded my thinking... so now.. I can understand someone else... and while I can't change someone's situation sometimes... I can feel your pain... I can feel your fear... I can feel your distrust...

then Job says he fears God... as we all should... too many of us do not have the right reverence and fear of the Lord.. we feel He is our best friend.. our road dog... and He is.. yet He is God... above all else... He is God Almighty... while He comes down to our level so that we can get to know Him and understand His love for us... we also must show Him the utmost respect... because He is the Great I AM.... and He could wipe us out with a slight thought... so we really need to respect Him... worship Him... love Him... praise Him...

Job 23: 2-9

2 “Even today my complaint is bitter; his hand is heavy in spite of my groaning. 3 If only I knew where to find him; if only I could go to his dwelling! 4 I would state my case before him and fill my mouth with arguments. 5 I would find out what he would answer me, and consider what he would say to me. 6 Would he vigorously oppose me? No, he would not press charges against me. 7 There the upright can establish their innocence before him, and there I would be delivered forever from my judge.

8 “But if I go to the east, he is not there; if I go to the west, I do not find him. 9 When he is at work in the north, I do not see him; when he turns to the south, I catch no glimpse of him.

how many times have we searched for God and been unable to find him... for me... it has been many times... I find as you mature in Christ... He seems to feel that you don't need all the specialized attention that you needed when you were just a baby... (thinking that relationships with men seem to be like that too...) He may not feel that way.. that is the way I perceive it... that He feels that you can stay in your word and learn to stand strong in spite of not 'feeling' Him.. we are to know that He will never leave us nor forsake us.. yet we want to feel His presence constantly and God just really is not willing to give that to the average person... maybe a preacher or something.. but surely not the regular folk.... we need to be stable without constant reassurance.. we need to know that He will be true to His word.. we need to learn to trust what He said even when it does not look like it is the truth...

His hand is heavy upon me... I have felt His heavy hand... or was it my own wrong doing... I am sure that both have been the truth.. but there are times.. no matter how righteous we live... some days we just feel crushed... and we can't find God and get an answer about what in the world is wrong...

now Job says that he is innocent... that he has been upright... and that because of this.. he doesn't understand why God is opposing him... I am not sure that even on my best day I can pretend that I am innocent... I would say that I am upright... because I truly strive to live without sin... although I fall to the left and the right... usually involving things that I say... yet I am striving... so I feel God would see me as upright... as long as I am confessing my falling and trying to get it right with His help... to say I am righteous... I believe I am righteous... not because of how I live... not even because God thinks I am special... but because I am washed in the blood of Jesus... so I am purified and cleansed and God is able to look upon me because of Christ's great sacrifice...

I long for a glimpse of God... a few hours heavily in His presence.... renewing me for the journey ahead... but in this time of solitude.. I will remember the words of the scripture that says lo I am with you always.. even unto the ends of the earth... and be comforted by the word of God...