I'm just talking today.. voicing some thoughts...

I get really annoyed when some of the people who are in leadership of churches... are teaching things that sound more like self help than the bible... I am really talking specifically how they talk about relationships... now don't get me wrong.. we all know that I have been abused in a marriage and would not wish that upon anyone.. I say get out of the situation... but...

not all things that are hard to go through or hard to deal with are of the devil either... God uses trying situations to change us and mold us and to tell these women to leave every relationship where she isn't getting her way isn't right either.... what about the time that God has us waiting and being prepared? if we listened to these relationship leaders.. they would tell us that if you aren't being treated like a queen.. then you need to leave.. what if this really is the relationship God ordained for you.. but both of you are still maturing into the man and woman that God has called you to be... they would have you leave and move on saying NEXT....

I am so not about that and I don't see it anywhere in the bible..... the bible tells us to endure... the bible tells us that an unsaved mate can be saved by your godly example... the bible tells us that men are the head of the house.. and women are to submit to that authority...

I was so selfish and so ungodly.. before God had me in this period of purity and consecration... and CHANGE... I have turned into such a different person... I am now able to see someone else's needs instead of always what makes me comfortable... I am now able to sacrifice my own desires sometimes to help fulfill someone else's... the bible tells us to be selfless and loving.. how can we be these things if we walk away from every relationship that God is using to change us.... I am  not suggesting the other person is right in not treating you like you are a queen.. what I am saying is.... a queen is often selfish and thoughtless of anyone else... relationship needs to be a two way street.. each person in their biblical role.. he needs to lead and she needs to submit.. and we all need to be willing to change rather than run every time something gets rough or uncomfortable.... many times we focus solely on what someone else is doing that we determine to be wrong... often we need to turn the focus on to what we are doing wrong instead... we cannot change someone else.. we can only change ourselves... and usually only with the help of God... I think it is more important to only get into a God directed relationship.. than it is to keep jumping from relationship to relationship... sometimes we just have to wait on God to bring the right person into our lives instead of just going with what we like... I am of the belief that we may not initially want what God chooses for us.. but He will turn our hearts to desire it and it will be what we need rather than what we thought we wanted...

and God may not say to you exactly what He says to me... so we ALL need to be seeking the word of God for ourselves!! allow God to speak to you and tell you what direction to take instead of listening to other people's opinions all the time.. take the focus off of ourself and onto God and we may see a wonderful change take place in ourselves and the relationship altogether.... (disclaimer... it may not happen for a long time.. so you will still need to rough it until the change comes... as long as that is God's will... and not your own... )