Proverbs 19:14 14Fathers can give their sons an inheritance of houses and wealth, but only the lord can give an understanding wife.

I saw this as a response of what I was talking about yesterday...  we need to make the right choices.. we need to choose someone who puts God first in their life.. someone who can manage whatever amount of money they are blessed with... and someone who treats us with respect...

that is our responsibility..

but in truth.. we still don't know what type of spouse that person will be... we know that people don't show who they really are for a long time... so while they look good on the inside.. they could be very ugly on the inside.. everything we see might actually be a show.. just to get us to commit to them... 

but if we have peace that God has given us this person.. that this is the spouse of His choice... then the rest is up to Him... and it is His choice to give us someone who is clean and right on the inside... not perfect.. but good.. deep down within... 

almost every time I have talked to a man.. I have heard God tell me no... for me to continue to talk to that person.. which I usually did.. was insanity... that is one lesson I have learned for certain.. the day I hear God say no.. that is the day I am done entertaining the idea that I may be with this person... now I may still talk to them.. maybe even go out to dinner.. but inside.. I know I am done.. and I am sure that on the outside it is clear too... I can be your friend after that.. but all thoughts of relationship are gone.. 

so I will do my part.. and I will trust God to do His...