1 Corinthians 14

22 So you see that speaking in tongues is a sign, not for believers, but for unbelievers. Prophecy, however, is for the benefit of believers, not unbelievers. 23 Even so, if unbelievers or people who don’t understand these things come into your church meeting and hear everyone speaking in an unknown language, they will think you are crazy. 24 But if all of you are prophesying, and unbelievers or people who don’t understand these things come into your meeting, they will be convicted of sin and judged by what you say. 25 As they listen, their secret thoughts will be exposed, and they will fall to their knees and worship God, declaring, “God is truly here among you.”

I believe there is a difference between speaking in a 'prayer language' than to speaking in tongues... I have seen someone stand and speak in a language that I didn't understand and someone else get up and interpret... yet.. if no one else in the congregation spoke the strange language.. what purpose did it serve? I am not condemning.. I am just commenting... there are a few ministers at my church that use the prayer language and I think it scares people more than comforting them.. which I believe to be what they are striving to do...

prophecy.. most people want to hear and then will determine whether they are willing to accept what you said or not based on how well they liked it.. LOL
26 Well, my brothers and sisters, let’s summarize. When you meet together, one will sing, another will teach, another will tell some special revelation God has given, one will speak in tongues, and another will interpret what is said. But everything that is done must strengthen all of you.
27 No more than two or three should speak in tongues. They must speak one at a time, and someone must interpret what they say. 28 But if no one is present who can interpret, they must be silent in your church meeting and speak in tongues to God privately.
29 Let two or three people prophesy, and let the others evaluate what is said. 30 But if someone is prophesying and another person receives a revelation from the Lord, the one who is speaking must stop. 31 In this way, all who prophesy will have a turn to speak, one after the other, so that everyone will learn and be encouraged. 32 Remember that people who prophesy are in control of their spirit and can take turns. 33 For God is not a God of disorder but of peace, as in all the meetings of God’s holy people.
34 Women should be silent during the church meetings. It is not proper for them to speak. They should be submissive, just as the law says. 35 If they have any questions, they should ask their husbands at home, for it is improper for women to speak in church meetings.

the big dissension... women are to be silent.... yet here it is.. even in the new testament... even toward the back... even from a man who didn't have a wife... a man who allowed women to have a place in the church.. just not in the pulpit... I believe we are all needed.. all called.. yet not all to be in the front... women tend to be clouded by a 'jezebel spirit' which is a usurper of authority... most of the dissention in the church.. in my opinion.. comes from women... even if their husband is the one to announce it... that is in my thoughts.. why they are to ask their husband at home... so that it doesn't start a bunch of mess....
36 Or do you think God’s word originated with you Corinthians? Are you the only ones to whom it was given? 37 If you claim to be a prophet or think you are spiritual, you should recognize that what I am saying is a command from the Lord himself. 38 But if you do not recognize this, you yourself will not be recognized.39 So, my dear brothers and sisters, be eager to prophesy, and don’t forbid speaking in tongues. 40 But be sure that everything is done properly and in order.