Genesis 16: Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had not been able to bear children for him. But she had an Egyptian servant named Hagar. 2 So Sarai said to Abram, “The Lord has prevented me from having children. Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her.” And Abram agreed with Sarai’s proposal. 3 So Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian servant and gave her to Abram as a wife. (This happened ten years after Abram had settled in the land of Canaan.) 4 So Abram had sexual relations with Hagar, and she became pregnant. But when Hagar knew she was pregnant, she began to treat her mistress, Sarai, with contempt. 5 Then Sarai said to Abram, “This is all your fault! I put my servant into your arms, but now that she’s pregnant she treats me with contempt. The Lord will show who’s wrong—you or me!” 6 Abram replied, “Look, she is your servant, so deal with her as you see fit.” Then Sarai treated Hagar so harshly that she finally ran away.

7 The angel of the Lord found Hagar beside a spring of water in the wilderness, along the road to Shur. 8 The angel said to her, “Hagar, Sarai’s servant, where have you come from, and where are you going?” “I’m running away from my mistress, Sarai,” she replied. 9 The angel of the Lord said to her, “Return to your mistress, and submit to her authority.” 10 Then he added, “I will give you more descendants than you can count.” 11 And the angel also said, “You are now pregnant and will give birth to a son. You are to name him Ishmael (which means ‘God hears’), for the Lord has heard your cry of distress. 12 This son of yours will be a wild man, as untamed as a wild donkey! He will raise his fist against everyone, and everyone will be against him. Yes, he will live in open hostility against all his relatives.”

13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” She also said, “Have I truly seen the One who sees me?”

this entire story is a mountain of confusion and not understanding for me.. first of all.. what woman with good sense wants your husband to sleep with another woman just because you are not getting the child you want so badly.. that woman is not going to disappear and you can call that child yours all you want, but at the end of the day it is still a child between your husband and another woman... secondly.. sarah imagines she is not wrong in the whole scenerio and thinks abraham is wrong.. ?? that was a crazy statement... next.. hagar runs away and meets God.. now look.. hagar got the bad end of this all around.. not to say that her becoming haughty and prideful was right.. but she is forced to sleep with a man that doesn't love her.. she gets pregnant and now the wife that caused it all hates her and treats her very harshly.. then she meets God.. who tells her to go back to it... (who has ANY understanding for why God sends us back into a bad situation??) then later.. after isaac is born.. sarah sends her away anyways... none of that story makes good sense to me on any level... so.. here are my takeaways... 

God doesn't always make sense to us.. He used this woman and made her a mother of many nations due to what she went through.. but she went through a bad time to get there.. some of it induced by God in her mind because He is the one that sent her back there after she left the first time.. and we are not talking about a bad time for a short time... she lived in this until ishmael was about 13yrs old.. so she lived through the situation for at least 14yrs... 

at the end of the scripture she says the God who sees me.. then says have I truly seen the one who sees me?

idk about you but I have been there.. I have been in a place where I am so close to God and hear Him so clearly and then it all falls apart and you stand and wonder.. did I really see God afterall or was it just my imagination??

God still turned it all for the good.. that is one thing about God.. whatever we go through.. whatever the situation.. after time passes.. we can look back and know that God will use all of it to make us better.. and sometimes make us more than we ever could have been if it had not happened... had hagar not had this child.. she would have remained a slave all her life.. but because of the child she was able to become a wealthy woman through her son... so she was better than she ever could have been if she had not gone through it..