1 Kings 11: Now King Solomon loved many foreign women. Besides Pharaoh’s daughter, he married women from Moab, Ammon, Edom, Sidon, and from among the Hittites. 2 The Lord had clearly instructed the people of Israel, “You must not marry them, because they will turn your hearts to their gods.” Yet Solomon insisted on loving them anyway. 3 He had 700 wives of royal birth and 300 concubines. And in fact, they did turn his heart away from the Lord.

thinking... 

so God is telling men and women not to be with multiple people and surely not to be with people who don't follow His ways... saying that it will turn our hearts from being loyal to Him... 

now I completely agree with this!! I have seen it in my own life.. not that I have been with 100 men or anything.. but any man I have been with got between me and God.. so I would say to some extent it turned my heart from Him.. now of course I will never leave God over a man.. that is certain.. but it does cause issues... 

then I think about men.. most of the men I have known in my life have not been faithful to one woman.. this does not mean it is not possible.. I believe some are.. but I think it seems to be very rare... and in them being with multiple women (at the same time too.. I could never do that) they imagine this will not affect their relationship with God.. but I think it does.. and I think it doesn't matter how committed you are to God.. it still gets in the way.. not necessarily pulling you completely from God.. but it blocks your hearing and your keeping God first in our lives... that is a battle with one significant other.. imagine more than one person being 'intimate' with you at a time... 

so often.. we read the bible and can't really hear what God is saying because it is not what we want to hear... sadly..