proverbs 11: 12 It is foolish to belittle one’s neighbor; a sensible person keeps quiet. 13 A gossip goes around telling secrets,  but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence.

at night I have an app that reads the bible to me.. this was read to me last night.. 

it got me thinking.. I have someone in my life right now that never talks down about anyone.. he is amazing to me... I have never known someone who didn't say bad things about anyone.. he is teaching me to do better in this area.. I am sure it is hard work for him... the bible says that it is sensible to keep quiet.. yet how often are we quiet? seems we often talk just to fill the silence.. for no good purpose.. I desire to truly down in my heart accept that it is good to just be quiet.. 

in the past I was a horrible gossip.. I had a circle of friends and I would talk to one after another telling them all the same stories.. ridiculous.. the men in my life hated this about me.. 

then over time I started having less girlfriends.. I find that now I am friendly with many people but keep confidence with very few.. and I am thankful for that change in my life.. I am now a trustworthy person.. this is very important to me now.. 

we don't really read the bible.. if we did we would be convicted every single time we open it.. proverbs is so down to earth.. totally talking about our day to day life and how we should and should not act.. yet we rarely even open God's word for anything other than us wanting Him to do something for us.. we are always looking for promises but not for conviction.. I thank God for conviction today to make me a better person..